Social Skills

Core Language Skills Children
Should Have Before Starting School

Social skills are very important for children to learn.  In school, children will be expected to adapt to new situations, communicate with a teacher and other students, and play with others on the playground or in class.    Social skills are how children learn to communicate their emotions, understand how others are feeling, and understand facial expressions.
Here’s a quick list of specific social skills that children should have by the time they start school:

Uses words to solve problems and conflicts
Follows one-step directions
Follows simple rules
Asks for help
Interacts appropriately with adults and other children
Participates in clean-up activities
Takes responsibility for his/her own items and respects those of others
Demonstrates increasing self-control
Is able to express feelings in words and begins to regulate emotions
Adjusts to new situations
Uses “please” and “thank you”

Language Skills
Language is one of the main ways children learn when they’re in school. It is important that children have these skills in order to succeed in school:

Talks in sentences
Retells a story that was just read to him/her
Identifies numbers and letters
Identifies at least five or six colours
Uses past and present tense verbs
Recites/sings common nursery rhymes and songs
Combines two ideas in sentences

Concepts
While in preschool, children learn many and begin to understand even more concepts about time, categories, and objects in space, to name a few.  Specifically, these skills include:

Sorts by categories (size, shape, color)
Identifies objects that are same and different
Understands some prepositions (in/out, over/under, on/off)
Understands time concepts such as yesterday, today, tomorrow

Some Things Parents Can Do At Home
One of the most important things I tell my students’ parents is to make sure to do some activities that facilitate this learning at home.  It doesn’t have to be anything complicated or expensive at all.  Just implement it into daily routines that are already established!  The children may not even realize they’re doing some work.

Ask the child to identify the “red book” or the “green barn” while reading.
Ask questions about what the child did yesterday and what he/she will do tomorrow.
Ask the child to briefly retell the story you just read to him/her.
Sing songs or rhyme while cooking or at bath time.
Go on a walk and find as many things as you can that are green (or any colour).
Emphasise concepts such as size, colour, or shape while the child is playing.